When Someone You Love Is in Pain

When Someone You Love Is in Pain


Thanks to EDS Info (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) for the original full post: http://edsinfo.wordpress.com/2013/11/17/warning-untreated-pain-leads-to-chronic-pain/

THIS EXCERPT TAKEN FROM ~ http://awomanshealth.com/the-chronic-pain-problem/


It can be hard to understand chronic pain if you haven’t experienced it yourself, but this lack of understanding often exacerbates the pain people are feeling. “When you talk to someone and they don’t understand, it’s devastating,” explains Heather Grace. She says it’s important to provide emotional support to someone in pain. “Just remember that they were your family member, friend, or co-worker long before they had pain, and you knew them and trusted them. So, don’t change your mind about that just because you don’t understand their pain.”

Simla Somturk Wickless, MBA, CHC, CNE, is a holistic health coach and a therapeutic nutritionist who survived debilitating chronic pain and fatigue to successfully overcome fibromyalgia and other chronic health conditions. Today she guides her clients worldwide toward health. If someone you love is in pain, she suggests the following:

Listen. There is nothing you can do to change the pain, but you can help your loved one feel truly heard.

Believe them. There is a stigma associated with pain, and often people in pain are viewed as dramatic or, worse, liars. It is rare for people to fake chronic pain. If they say they are in pain, they likely are.

Ask questions. Ask your loved one to rate the pain and describe its impact. Ask him or her to describe the diagnosed condition and then research it more on your own. This will help both of you gain a better understanding of the pain—and each other.

Offer assistance. Ask how—not if—you can help. And if the answer is “No, thanks,” just be good company.

Have compassion. It can be unbearable to live with chronic pain—and even worse to feel judged for it. Empathy, kindness, and compassion can help ease suffering and build a bridge of understanding.

Bring humor and optimism. Focus conversations on positive topics the person enjoys. Laughter can take one’s mind off the pain and even serve as a temporary painkiller.

Be respectful of the unique situation. Do not push solutions on your loved one just because “it worked for so-and-so.”

Be understanding. Realize that his or her moods may be affected by the pain, and don’t take sour moods personally.

Show your unconditional love. Simple acts of kindness and love go a long way. Bring flowers or a homemade dish, offer to pick up some groceries or a good book, or give a welcome gift, such as a house-cleaning service gift certificate. Above all, just demonstrate love.

Chronic Pain Resources

The following organizations provide education, support, and other resources for individuals suffering from chronic pain:

American Pain Foundation www.painfoundation.org

American Chronic Pain Association www.theacpa.org

American Academy of Pain Medicine www.painmed.org

American Pain Society www.ampainsoc.org

National Pain Foundation www.nationalpainfoundation.org

THIS EXCERPT TAKEN FROM ~ http://awomanshealth.com/the-chronic-pain-problem/


About teeks55

I'm a sleep deprived antique dealer with fibromyalgia, RA, diabetes & more. Love hubby, cats, books & humor! Avid tea drinker. Poker player. Pain fighter.
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2 Responses to When Someone You Love Is in Pain

  1. dawnhosking says:

    An excellent resource.

  2. tlohuis says:

    Wild Thang says, “AMEN SISTER”.

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