Got a new neighbor recently.
They have been over there painting and getting their new house fixed up the way they want it.
They haven’t moved their stuff in yet.
Meanwhile…we had a big blizzard here a few days ago. I think we got about 10-12 inches of snow.
Finally, after being snowed in for 2 days….yesterday afternoon we got some people to come dig us out…with shovels & a snowblower.
It cost us $40…but we had to pay it. Hubby is 70 years old and a heart patient, and I am 66 and have multiple autoimmune diseases including RA, diabetes, thyroid disease, endometriosis, fibromyalgia and more…so obviously neither of us can do it.
Early this afternoon, the new neighbor knocked on the door (I was still asleep, had a rough night last night).
So when I got up, I asked hubby, Who was at the door earlier?
He says, The new neighbor. He complained that the snowblower got snow on his windows and his front sidewalk.
I said….Whaaaa???
I wasn’t pleased to hear this.
So the more I thought on it, the more it ticked me off.
I mean, WTF?? Seriously? You are worried about SNOW getting on your WINDOWS? And the front sidewalk??
Ummm, sorry. We just had a blizzard. Did snow get on your windows when it was blizzarding? On your sidewalk at all? Did you shake your fist at the sky?
I realize you shoveled the sidewalk, (only minutes after it quit snowing). So I’ll give you that.
But I don’t know if you realize this….. that sidewalk out in front of your house is a PUBLIC sidewalk. So….
I’m thinking the new neighbor needs to chill out a little.
Don’t go barking out complaints at us, before you’ve even moved in!
We’ve lived here just about 38 YEARS, dude. Just about as long as you’ve been alive.
Relax. Settle down. No one is trying to blow snow on your proprty.
I realize our houses are very close together, and our driveway is unfortunately very close to your windows.
But dude, you could see that when you bought the house. So.
Anyway, look….we are going to live next to each other for awhile, it seems like.
So don’t you wanna start off on the right foot? Get along? Be nice to each other?
Please. Let’s start over.
Because if you start bitching at ME about SNOW, of all things, getting on your property, as if it’s a personal AFRONT or some shit….for crying out loud.
Please just relax. I want to get along with you. I had even tried thinking of something easy I could make for you as a housewarming & Welcome to the Neighborhood treat. (I hate to cook). But I was going to do it cause it’s a nice thing to do.
Then you come over all PO’d about snow on your windows & your sidewalk.
Welp. I guess no cookies for you. 😀
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So after I cooled off, after my meltdown…..I thought about it. And came to this conclusion.
I’m going to do some extra meditating over this….because I really want to get along with you guys.
I want to wave at you when we see you outside, I want to ask how things are going with the house.
I want to NOT have to wonder what you are going to complain about next.
Please be nice.
Please. Just don’t sweat the small stuff. No one is out to get you or throw snow at you.
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So….. Welcome.
We want to get along with you. Please don’t make it hard.
Namaste.
Peace, brother.
Part 2
So I am my father’s daughter. I was born with a quick temper, that blows up fast, then dissipates just as quickly.
Add that temper mixed in with severe chronic pain every single day for 40 years, and you might call that a problem waiting to happen.
My husband has learned why I am the way I am, and so he just lets me ride out my explosions of anger….until I yell or cry enough to get it out of my system. Then he comforts me, he rubs my back, he takes my hand and squeezes gently.
He knows I’ll be okay. He knows I don’t mean the shitty things I sometimes say.
He knows it’s the pain. It’s always the pain.
So when this neighbor thing triggered my anger, and I ranted (and ranted) at poor hubby for almost an hour….and I finally fizzled like a spent sparkler firecracker….it was basically just status quo for me.
Hubby just let me go…he knew I would need to spew for awhile.
And then I calmed down and just sat in a heap of my plummeting high blood pressure and insulted ego.
I knew, this is yet ANOTHER thing I have to bring to my meditation station (bathroom) and lay it on the altar of the Universe (a small bench across from the toilet, where I have my books, candles & a small drum that I like to play along to music during meditation).
I knew that I would need to figure out how to deal with yet another trigger that would be living right next door to us for who-knew how many YEARS.
Oh god almighty. LOL
So begins yet another thing to work on, so I don’t make an enemy before I even have a chance to make a friend. Before I’ve even laid EYES on this person.
Help me, Universe. Help me learn to RESPOND, not REACT.
Help me, Universe, to find that pure love for my fellow man, even THIS man, who doesn’t like snow on his windows and sidewalk.
Help me learn to genuinely like him…. Help me learn to make friends with him.
Help ME be the one to welcome him home.
Namaste, neighbor.
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